Two weeks ago a man came to give us an estimate for a water softener and filtration system. He asked REPEATEDLY when my husband would be joining us, assuming that I could neither understand nor make a decision about the purchase. I wanted to hit him with a meat mallet.
I loathed this man. Maybe pregnancy is partially to blame but I actively stared at him with hatred. I rarely have this reaction to people so I spent some time trying to figure out why I had such a negative reaction to his very presence.
I realized that what triggered me so strongly was gender discrimination. This is something I have often had to reconcile in my career but rarely in my own home. I have crafted my message around empowering women when it comes to home finances and important family choices. It was as if this man was shitting all over that narrative right here in my kitchen.
Most people do not balk when having to deal with me when it comes to our finances but there are occasional offenses like this. This is an example of what sociologists call cultural annihilation, diminishing your existence by omission. We simply cannot allow this! We have to realize when it happens and refuse to do business with people like this.
I should have told that asshat that his repeated questions about my husband were offensive and showed him the door. Instead I told him I would call him about his service and I am not going to. I am going to ghost him like he ghosted me. I concede that may not be the most mature path.
I could also call his company and report his behavior in hopes that they have a productive talk with him. That would probably be the more mature path.
Most importantly, I flat out refuse to do business with this person. He was selling a $7,000 job and he lost the sale due to his disrespect. As empowered women, we have to find people who better align with our energies so that we can reach our goals.
I’ve learned in my life not to dwell too much on people who are misaligned in my life. At least I know that in theory. This post makes it seem like I’ve fixated on this person and maybe I have a little. The point is this: when someone makes you and your voice invisible in your own home or when it comes to the business of your family, REJECT IT! Reject it and refuse to do business with those people! That is all! Good day, sir!